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The Code of a Gentleman

"Without a strict observance of the fundamental Code of Honor, no man, no matter how polished, can be considered a gentleman. The honor of a gentleman demands the inviolability of his word, and the incorruptibility of his principles. He is the descendant of the knight, the crusader; he is the defender of the defenseless and the champion of justice... or he is not a Gentleman.

A Gentleman ...

Does not discuss his family affairs in public or with acquaintances.

Does not speak more than casually about his girlfriend.

Does not go to a lady's house if he is affected by alcohol. He is temperate in the use of alcohol.

Does not lose his temper; not exhibit anger, fear, hate, embarrassment, ardor or hilarity in public.

Does not hail a lady from a club window.

A Gentleman never discusses the merits or demerits of a lady.

Does not mention names exactly as he avoids the mention of what things cost.

Does not borrow money from a friend, except in dire need. Money borrowed is a debt of honor, and must be repaid as promptly as possible. Debts incurred by a deceased parent, brother, sister or grown child are assumed by honorable men as a debt of honor.

Does not display his wealth, money or possessions.

Does not put his manners on and off, whether in the club or in a ballroom. He treats people with courtesy, no matter what their social position might be.

Does not slap strangers on the back nor so much as lay a finger on a lady.

Does not 'lick the boots of those above' nor 'kick the face of those below him' on the social ladder.

Does not take advantage of another's helplessness or ignorance and assumes that no gentleman will take advantage of him.

A Gentleman respects the reserves of others, but demands that others respect those which are his."

A period piece that was part of a publication that first year students ("rats") at the historically all-male Virginia Military Institute (VMI) had to carry on their person at all times.

I have mixed feelings about this... Parts of it I like, parts of it not so much. You?


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Jan. 14th, 2007 05:09 am (UTC)
Ugh! As someone who has been to VMI on several occassions... I am not very fond of their rat system.
When I was in ROTC, I was in charge of making a ROTC field day for units all across VA and had to work with VMI and it was just... not a pleasant experience. I don't understand why they treat the first year cadets like that. But, I guess they choose to go there...and luckily its only for the first semester.
Jan. 14th, 2007 05:15 am (UTC)
they say the devil is a gentleman
Jan. 15th, 2007 04:36 am (UTC)
they do?
Jan. 14th, 2007 01:32 pm (UTC)
"the law of
the strong:
this is our law
and the joy
of the world." AL. II. 2

"Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the Law." --AL. I. 40

"thou hast no right but to do thy will. Do that, and no other shall say nay." --AL. I. 42-3

"Every man and every woman is a star." --AL. I. 3

There is no god but man.
1. Man has the right to live by his own law--
to live in the way that he wills to do:
to work as he will:
to play as he will:
to rest as he will:
to die when and how he will.
2. Man has the right to eat what he will:
to drink what he will:
to dwell where he will:
to move as he will on the face of the earth.
3. Man has the right to think what he will:
to speak what he will:
to write what he will:
to draw, paint, carve, etch, mould, build as he will:
to dress as he will.
4. Man has the right to love as he will:--
"take your fill and will of love as ye will,
when, where, and with whom ye will." --AL. I. 51
5. Man has the right to kill those who would thwart these rights.
"the slaves shall serve." --AL. II. 58
"Love is the law, love under will." --AL. I. 57

Copyright © O.T.O.
Jan. 14th, 2007 01:50 pm (UTC)
Sounds perfectly reasonable to me.

Love & kisses,

Jan. 14th, 2007 04:16 pm (UTC)
I like it!
Jan. 14th, 2007 06:10 pm (UTC)
There are a couple of points that need to be updated but I agree with it. With what parts did you have specific issue?
Jan. 15th, 2007 04:35 am (UTC)
My least favorite parts are the "don't talk about your problems" parts... I think that's generally unhealthy... and probably how serial killers are made...
Jan. 15th, 2007 09:30 pm (UTC)
While not stated in the "Code", I think it has always been understood that you didn't discuss your problems in more public settings. IMO,the thing about being a "gentleperson" is that you hold yourself responsible for your life and act accordingly (much like Thelema). If you need assistance, someone to talk to, etc, then do so but it doesn't need to be aired in public, IMO.
Jan. 15th, 2007 05:56 pm (UTC)
VMI prepares Keydets to lead men and women on the battlefield and the battles of the business world.
VMI's new Keydet orientation is designed to be stressful. It is much better to be placed under stress under safe conditions than wait until an emergency where lives are at risk to see if you can lead people.
VMI's Honor Code is rigid. Keydets and Alumni see right and wrong and no shades of gray.
In these troubling times we need more people with VMI values.

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Jan. 19th, 2007 01:55 am (UTC)
Re: The Law
It was in a case that I had to read for a class...
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